ANA ALEXANDRA CARVALHEIRA

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Salvos pelo beijo

É preciso abrandar para sentir, para observar as sensações. O ato de abrandar altera a experiência. A carga erótica de um beijo improvável, um beijo inesperado. Não falo de um beijo em piloto automático. A reflexão da psicóloga e investigadora Ana Alexandra Carvalheira

“𝓐 𝓶𝓾́𝓼𝓲𝓬𝓪 𝓮́ 𝓸 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓷𝓸𝓼 𝓼𝓪𝓵𝓿𝓪”, 𝓮𝓼𝓬𝓻𝓮𝓿𝓮𝓾 𝓟𝓮𝓭𝓻𝓸 𝓐𝓫𝓻𝓾𝓷𝓱𝓸𝓼𝓪 𝓷𝓾𝓶 𝓵𝓲𝓷𝓭𝓸 𝓹𝓸𝓼𝓽 𝓭𝓮 𝓪𝓰𝓻𝓪𝓭𝓮𝓬𝓲𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓸 𝓪 𝓒𝓪𝓻𝓸𝓵𝓲𝓷𝓪 𝓓𝓮𝓼𝓵𝓪𝓷𝓭𝓮𝓼. 𝓕𝓲𝓺𝓾𝓮𝓲 𝓪 𝓹𝓮𝓷𝓼𝓪𝓻 𝓷𝓲𝓼𝓽𝓸 𝓮𝓷𝓺𝓾𝓪𝓷𝓽𝓸 𝓸𝓾𝓿𝓲𝓪 𝓶𝓾́𝓼𝓲𝓬𝓪, 𝓪 𝓹𝓮𝓷𝓼𝓪𝓻 𝓷𝓸 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓷𝓸𝓼 𝓼𝓪𝓵𝓿𝓪, 𝓷𝓸 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓷𝓸𝓼 𝓷𝓾𝓽𝓻𝓮 𝓷𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓮𝓼 𝓽𝓮𝓶𝓹𝓸𝓼 𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓻𝓪𝓷𝓱𝓸𝓼. 𝓢𝓪𝓵𝓿𝓪-𝓷𝓸𝓼 𝓪 𝓶𝓾́𝓼𝓲𝓬𝓪, 𝓼𝓪𝓵𝓿𝓪-𝓷𝓸𝓼 𝓪 𝓪𝓻𝓽𝓮 𝓷𝓪𝓼 𝓼𝓾𝓪𝓼 𝓭𝓲𝓿𝓮𝓻𝓼𝓪𝓼 𝓯𝓸𝓻𝓶𝓪𝓼 𝓮 𝓼𝓪𝓵𝓿𝓪-𝓷𝓸𝓼 𝓸 𝓭𝓮𝓼𝓮𝓳𝓸, 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓷𝓸𝓼 𝓸𝓻𝓲𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓪 𝓸𝓼 𝓬𝓪𝓶𝓲𝓷𝓱𝓸𝓼. 𝓜𝓪𝓼 𝓿𝓲𝓿𝓮𝓶𝓸𝓼 𝓽𝓮𝓶𝓹𝓸𝓼 𝓭𝓮 𝓶𝓮𝓭𝓸, 𝓮 𝓸 𝓶𝓮𝓭𝓸 𝓶𝓪𝓽𝓪 𝓸 𝓭𝓮𝓼𝓮𝓳𝓸.

𝓞 𝓭𝓮𝓼𝓮𝓳𝓸 𝓮́ 𝓶𝓸𝓫𝓲𝓵𝓲𝔃𝓪𝓭𝓸 𝓹𝓮𝓵𝓸 𝓮𝓻𝓸𝓽𝓲𝓼𝓶𝓸, 𝓮𝓼𝓼𝓮 𝓬𝓸𝓶𝓫𝓾𝓼𝓽𝓲́𝓿𝓮𝓵 𝓲𝓷𝓯𝓪𝓵𝓲́𝓿𝓮𝓵 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓪𝓬𝓸𝓻𝓭𝓪 𝓸 𝓬𝓸𝓻𝓹𝓸 𝓮 𝓸 𝓹𝓻𝓮𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓪 𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓪 𝓪 𝓮𝔁𝓹𝓮𝓻𝓲𝓮̂𝓷𝓬𝓲𝓪 𝓼𝓮𝔁𝓾𝓪𝓵. 𝓜𝓪𝓼 𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓮 𝓬𝓪𝓶𝓹𝓸 𝓽𝓪𝓶𝓫𝓮́𝓶 𝓷𝓪̃𝓸 𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓪́ 𝓯𝓪𝓿𝓸𝓻𝓮𝓬𝓲𝓭𝓸. 𝓞 𝓮𝓻𝓸𝓽𝓲𝓼𝓶𝓸 𝓪𝓷𝓭𝓪 𝓹𝓮𝓵𝓪𝓼 𝓻𝓾𝓪𝓼 𝓭𝓪 𝓪𝓶𝓪𝓻𝓰𝓾𝓻𝓪. 𝓥𝓲𝓿𝓮𝓶𝓸𝓼 𝓽𝓮𝓶𝓹𝓸𝓼 𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓯𝓾𝓼𝓸𝓼. 𝓐 𝓹𝓪𝓷𝓭𝓮𝓶𝓲𝓪 𝓪𝓽𝓲𝓻𝓸𝓾-𝓷𝓸𝓼 𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓪 𝓵𝓸𝓷𝓰𝓮 𝓾𝓷𝓼 𝓭𝓸𝓼 𝓸𝓾𝓽𝓻𝓸𝓼 𝓸𝓾 𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓪 𝓭𝓮𝓶𝓪𝓼𝓲𝓪𝓭𝓸 𝓹𝓮𝓻𝓽𝓸. 𝓝𝓸 𝓬𝓪𝓼𝓸 𝓭𝓸𝓼 𝓬𝓪𝓼𝓪𝓲𝓼 𝓮𝓶 𝓬𝓸𝓪𝓫𝓲𝓽𝓪𝓬̧𝓪̃𝓸, 𝓯𝓸𝓲 𝓹𝓮𝓻𝓽𝓸 𝓭𝓮𝓶𝓪𝓲𝓼 𝓹𝓸𝓻𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓪 𝓮𝔁𝓬𝓮𝓼𝓼𝓲𝓿𝓪 𝓹𝓻𝓸𝔁𝓲𝓶𝓲𝓭𝓪𝓭𝓮 𝓪𝓫𝓪𝓯𝓪 𝓪 𝓮𝔁𝓹𝓮𝓻𝓲𝓮̂𝓷𝓬𝓲𝓪 𝓮𝓻𝓸́𝓽𝓲𝓬𝓪 𝓮 𝓹𝓸𝓻 𝓲𝓼𝓼𝓸, 𝓪𝓹𝓪𝓰𝓪 𝓸 𝓭𝓮𝓼𝓮𝓳𝓸. 𝓞 𝓮𝓻𝓸𝓽𝓲𝓼𝓶𝓸 𝓹𝓻𝓮𝓬𝓲𝓼𝓪 𝓭𝓮 𝓮𝓼𝓹𝓪𝓬̧𝓸, 𝓶𝓸𝓿𝓲𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓸 𝓮 𝓪𝓻, 𝓬𝓸𝓶𝓸 𝓾𝓶 𝓯𝓸𝓰𝓸 𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓪 𝓼𝓮 𝓶𝓪𝓷𝓽𝓮𝓻 𝓪𝓬𝓮𝓼𝓸.

𝓒𝓸𝓶𝓸 𝓻𝓮𝓼𝓰𝓪𝓽𝓪𝓻 𝓸 𝓮𝓻𝓸𝓽𝓲𝓼𝓶𝓸 𝓷𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓮 𝓽𝓮𝓶𝓹𝓸 𝓪𝓬𝓮𝓵𝓮𝓻𝓪𝓭𝓸, 𝓮𝓶 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓺𝓾𝓪𝓼𝓮 𝓽𝓾𝓭𝓸 𝓮́ 𝓹𝓵𝓪𝓷𝓮𝓪𝓭𝓸 𝓮 𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓽𝓻𝓸𝓵𝓪𝓭𝓸? 𝓞 𝓲𝓶𝓮𝓭𝓲𝓪𝓽𝓲𝓼𝓶𝓸, 𝓪 𝓻𝓪𝓹𝓲𝓭𝓮𝔃, 𝓪 𝓬𝓪𝓹𝓪𝓬𝓲𝓭𝓪𝓭𝓮 𝓭𝓮 𝓼𝓮𝓻 𝓶𝓾𝓵𝓽𝓲𝓽𝓪𝓼𝓴𝓲𝓷𝓰, 𝓮 𝓸 𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓽𝓻𝓸𝓵, 𝓼𝓪̃𝓸 𝓿𝓪𝓵𝓸𝓻𝓮𝓼 𝓭𝓪 𝓶𝓸𝓭𝓮𝓻𝓷𝓲𝓭𝓪𝓭𝓮 – 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓪𝓳𝓾𝓭𝓪𝓶 𝓲𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓼𝓸 𝓪̀ 𝓹𝓻𝓸𝓭𝓾𝓽𝓲𝓿𝓲𝓭𝓪𝓭𝓮! – 𝓶𝓪𝓼, 𝓪𝓽𝓻𝓪𝓹𝓪𝓵𝓱𝓪𝓶 𝓶𝓾𝓲𝓽𝓸 𝓪 𝓿𝓲𝓿𝓮̂𝓷𝓬𝓲𝓪 𝓪𝓶𝓸𝓻𝓸𝓼𝓪 𝓮 𝓼𝓮𝔁𝓾𝓪𝓵 (𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓷𝓪̃𝓸 𝓽𝓮̂𝓶 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓲𝓻 𝓳𝓾𝓷𝓽𝓪𝓼).

𝓐 𝓿𝓲𝓭𝓪 𝓭𝓮𝓬𝓸𝓻𝓻𝓮 𝓪 𝓾𝓶 𝓻𝓲𝓽𝓶𝓸 𝓪𝓬𝓮𝓵𝓮𝓻𝓪𝓭𝓸, 𝓭𝓲𝓽𝓪𝓭𝓸 𝓹𝓸𝓻 𝓾𝓶𝓪 𝓪𝓰𝓮𝓷𝓭𝓪 𝓬𝓪𝓻𝓻𝓮𝓰𝓪𝓭𝓪 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓽𝓪𝓷𝓽𝓪𝓼 𝓿𝓮𝔃𝓮𝓼 𝓷𝓸𝓼 𝓮𝓷𝓰𝓸𝓵𝓮. 𝓐𝓷𝓭𝓪𝓶𝓸𝓼 𝓭𝓮 𝓸𝓫𝓻𝓲𝓰𝓪𝓬̧𝓪̃𝓸 𝓮𝓶 𝓸𝓫𝓻𝓲𝓰𝓪𝓬̧𝓪̃𝓸, 𝓽𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓪𝓶𝓸𝓼 𝓬𝓾𝓶𝓹𝓻𝓲𝓻 𝓹𝓵𝓪𝓷𝓸𝓼 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓯𝓪𝔃𝓮𝓶𝓸𝓼 𝓮 𝓻𝓮𝓯𝓪𝔃𝓮𝓶𝓸𝓼 𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓽𝓲𝓷𝓾𝓪𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓮, 𝓹𝓸𝓻𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓸 𝓬𝓸𝓶𝓹𝓻𝓸𝓶𝓲𝓼𝓼𝓸 𝓽𝓪𝓶𝓫𝓮́𝓶 𝓳𝓪́ 𝓷𝓪̃𝓸 𝓮́ 𝓸 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓮𝓻𝓪 – 𝓪𝓺𝓾𝓲𝓵𝓸 𝓬𝓸𝓶 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓷𝓸𝓼 𝓬𝓸𝓶𝓹𝓻𝓸𝓶𝓮𝓽𝓮𝓶𝓸𝓼 𝓱𝓸𝓳𝓮, 𝓳𝓪́ 𝓷𝓪̃𝓸 𝓪𝓹𝓮𝓽𝓮𝓬𝓮 𝓪𝓶𝓪𝓷𝓱𝓪̃, 𝓮 𝓶𝓾𝓲𝓽𝓪𝓼 𝓿𝓮𝔃𝓮𝓼 𝓱𝓪́ 𝓷𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓪 𝓿𝓸𝓷𝓽𝓪𝓭𝓮 𝓼𝓪𝓵𝓽𝓲𝓽𝓪𝓷𝓽𝓮 𝓾𝓶 𝓭𝓮𝓼𝓻𝓮𝓼𝓹𝓮𝓲𝓽𝓸 𝓹𝓮𝓵𝓸 𝓸𝓾𝓽𝓻𝓸. 𝓞 𝓬𝓸𝓶𝓹𝓻𝓸𝓶𝓲𝓼𝓼𝓸 𝓹𝓮𝓻𝓭𝓮𝓾 𝓸 𝓼𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓲𝓭𝓸, 𝓸𝓾 𝓶𝓾𝓭𝓸𝓾 𝓭𝓮 𝓼𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓲𝓭𝓸, 𝓷𝓪̃𝓸 𝓼𝓮𝓲 𝓫𝓮𝓶, 𝓽𝓪𝓵𝓿𝓮𝔃 𝓽𝓮𝓷𝓱𝓪 𝓪𝓼𝓼𝓾𝓶𝓲𝓭𝓸 𝓷𝓸𝓿𝓪𝓼 𝓯𝓸𝓻𝓶𝓪𝓼. 𝓕𝓪𝔃𝓮𝓶𝓸𝓼 𝓾𝓶𝓪 𝓪𝓰𝓮𝓷𝓭𝓪 𝓭𝓮 𝓽𝓻𝓪𝓫𝓪𝓵𝓱𝓸, 𝓾𝓶𝓪 𝓪𝓰𝓮𝓷𝓭𝓪 𝓯𝓪𝓶𝓲𝓵𝓲𝓪𝓻, 𝓭𝓸𝓶𝓮́𝓼𝓽𝓲𝓬𝓪, 𝓾𝓶𝓪 𝓪𝓰𝓮𝓷𝓭𝓪 𝓼𝓸𝓬𝓲𝓪𝓵, 𝓶𝓪𝓲𝓼 𝓪𝓼 𝓪𝓰𝓮𝓷𝓭𝓪𝓼 𝓭𝓸𝓼 𝓯𝓲𝓵𝓱𝓸𝓼 𝓮 𝓪 𝓹𝓵𝓪𝓷𝓲𝓯𝓲𝓬𝓪𝓬̧𝓪̃𝓸 𝓲𝓷𝓿𝓪𝓭𝓮 𝓽𝓾𝓭𝓸. 𝓔 𝓸 𝓼𝓮𝔁𝓸 𝓮𝓷𝓬𝓪𝓲𝔁𝓪 𝓹𝓸𝓻 𝓪𝓺𝓾𝓲, 𝓽𝓪𝓷𝓽𝓪𝓼 𝓿𝓮𝔃𝓮𝓼 𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓪𝓵𝓪𝓭𝓸 𝓮 𝓮𝓶𝓹𝓾𝓻𝓻𝓪𝓭𝓸 𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓻𝓮 𝓪𝓼 𝓪𝓰𝓮𝓷𝓭𝓪𝓼 𝓭𝓮 𝓾𝓶 𝓮 𝓭𝓮 𝓸𝓾𝓽𝓻𝓸 𝓮 𝓶𝓾𝓲𝓽𝓪𝓼 𝓿𝓮𝔃𝓮𝓼 𝓽𝓪𝓶𝓫𝓮́𝓶 𝓮𝓵𝓮 𝓹𝓵𝓪𝓷𝓮𝓪𝓭𝓸. 𝓝𝓪̃𝓸 𝓱𝓪́ 𝓽𝓮𝓶𝓹𝓸. 𝓝𝓪̃𝓸 𝓱𝓪́ 𝓽𝓮𝓶𝓹𝓸 𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓪 𝓼𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓲𝓻, 𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓪 𝓭𝓮𝓲𝔁𝓪𝓻 𝓪𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓽𝓮𝓬𝓮𝓻, 𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓪 𝓭𝓮𝓼𝓮𝓳𝓪𝓻, 𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓪 𝓲𝓻 𝓪𝓸 𝓮𝓷𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓽𝓻𝓸 𝓭𝓸 𝓸𝓾𝓽𝓻𝓸, 𝓭𝓮𝓿𝓪𝓰𝓪𝓻.

𝓟𝓸𝓻 𝓸𝓾𝓽𝓻𝓸 𝓵𝓪𝓭𝓸, 𝓷𝓾𝓷𝓬𝓪 𝓪𝓷𝓽𝓮𝓼 𝓬𝓸𝓶𝓸 𝓪𝓰𝓸𝓻𝓪 𝓸 𝓷𝓸𝓼𝓼𝓸 𝓬𝓮́𝓻𝓮𝓫𝓻𝓸 𝓽𝓮𝓿𝓮 𝓽𝓪𝓷𝓽𝓸𝓼 𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓲́𝓶𝓾𝓵𝓸𝓼 𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓪 𝓹𝓻𝓸𝓬𝓮𝓼𝓼𝓪𝓻. 𝓝𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓮𝓼 𝓽𝓮𝓶𝓹𝓸𝓼 𝓶𝓸𝓭𝓮𝓻𝓷𝓸𝓼 𝓱𝓪́ 𝓾𝓶 𝓮𝔁𝓬𝓮𝓼𝓼𝓸 𝓭𝓮 𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓲𝓶𝓾𝓵𝓪𝓬̧𝓪̃𝓸 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓬𝓱𝓮𝓰𝓪 𝓹𝓸𝓻 𝓶𝓾́𝓵𝓽𝓲𝓹𝓵𝓸𝓼 𝓬𝓪𝓷𝓪𝓲𝓼, 𝓸 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓪́ 𝓶𝓮𝓼𝓶𝓸 𝓪 𝓹𝓻𝓸𝓿𝓸𝓬𝓪𝓻 𝓪𝓵𝓽𝓮𝓻𝓪𝓬̧𝓸̃𝓮𝓼 𝓷𝓸 𝓷𝓸𝓼𝓼𝓸 𝓬𝓮́𝓻𝓮𝓫𝓻𝓸. 𝓜𝓪𝓼 𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓪 𝓪𝓫𝓾𝓷𝓭𝓪̂𝓷𝓬𝓲𝓪 𝓭𝓮 𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓲́𝓶𝓾𝓵𝓸𝓼 𝓽𝓻𝓪𝔃 𝓫𝓮𝓷𝓮𝓯𝓲́𝓬𝓲𝓸𝓼 𝓷𝓸 𝓹𝓵𝓪𝓷𝓸 𝓮𝓻𝓸́𝓽𝓲𝓬𝓸? 𝓝𝓪̃𝓸 𝓶𝓮 𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓮𝓬𝓮. 𝓓𝓮𝓶𝓪𝓼𝓲𝓪𝓭𝓸𝓼 𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓲́𝓶𝓾𝓵𝓸𝓼 𝓽𝓻𝓪𝔃𝓮𝓶 𝓼𝓪𝓽𝓾𝓻𝓪𝓬̧𝓪̃𝓸 𝓮 𝓫𝓪𝓷𝓪𝓵𝓲𝔃𝓪𝓬̧𝓪̃𝓸. 𝓒𝓸𝓶𝓸 𝓼𝓪𝓵𝓿𝓪𝓶𝓸𝓼 𝓸 𝓮𝓻𝓸𝓽𝓲𝓼𝓶𝓸 𝓷𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓮 𝓬𝓪𝓵𝓭𝓸 𝓭𝓮 𝓱𝓲𝓹𝓮𝓻𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓲𝓶𝓾𝓵𝓪𝓬̧𝓪̃𝓸?

𝓔́ 𝓬𝓾𝓻𝓲𝓸𝓼𝓸 𝓮 𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓪𝓭𝓸𝔁𝓪𝓵 𝓸𝓫𝓼𝓮𝓻𝓿𝓪𝓻 𝓺𝓾𝓮, 𝓪𝓹𝓮𝓼𝓪𝓻 𝓭𝓮 𝓽𝓪𝓷𝓽𝓸𝓼 𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓲́𝓶𝓾𝓵𝓸𝓼, 𝓪𝓼 𝓹𝓮𝓼𝓼𝓸𝓪𝓼 𝓿𝓲𝓿𝓮𝓶 𝓪𝓲𝓷𝓭𝓪 𝓭𝓮𝓼𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓮𝓬𝓽𝓪𝓭𝓪𝓼 𝓭𝓸 𝓬𝓸𝓻𝓹𝓸. 𝓥𝓲𝓿𝓮-𝓼𝓮 𝓷𝓪 𝓬𝓪𝓫𝓮𝓬̧𝓪, 𝓷𝓸𝓼 𝓹𝓮𝓷𝓼𝓪𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓸𝓼, 𝓷𝓪𝓼 𝓪𝓷𝓪́𝓵𝓲𝓼𝓮𝓼, 𝓪𝓿𝓪𝓵𝓲𝓪𝓬̧𝓸̃𝓮𝓼, 𝓳𝓾𝓵𝓰𝓪𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓸𝓼, 𝓹𝓵𝓪𝓷𝓮𝓪𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓸, 𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓻𝓮 𝓸𝓾𝓽𝓻𝓸𝓼 𝓹𝓻𝓸𝓬𝓮𝓼𝓼𝓸𝓼 𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓪𝓲𝓼. 𝓢𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓲𝓶𝓸𝓼 𝓸 𝓬𝓸𝓻𝓹𝓸 𝓺𝓾𝓪𝓷𝓭𝓸 𝓮𝓵𝓮 𝓭𝓸́𝓲, 𝓸𝓵𝓱𝓪𝓶𝓸𝓼 𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓪 𝓮𝓵𝓮 𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓪 𝓯𝓸𝓬𝓪𝓻 𝓪𝓼 𝓲𝓷𝓼𝓾𝓯𝓲𝓬𝓲𝓮̂𝓷𝓬𝓲𝓪𝓼 𝓮 𝓬𝓸𝓶𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓪𝓻 𝓲𝓶𝓹𝓮𝓻𝓯𝓮𝓲𝓬̧𝓸̃𝓮𝓼. 𝓓𝓪𝓶𝓸-𝓷𝓸𝓼 𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓽𝓪 𝓭𝓸 𝓬𝓸𝓻𝓹𝓸 𝓺𝓾𝓪𝓷𝓭𝓸 𝓷𝓸𝓼 𝓽𝓻𝓪𝔃 𝓲𝓷𝓼𝓪𝓽𝓲𝓼𝓯𝓪𝓬̧𝓪̃𝓸, 𝓹𝓸𝓻𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓷𝓪̃𝓸 𝓮́ 𝓼𝓾𝓯𝓲𝓬𝓲𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓮𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓮 𝓽𝓸𝓷𝓲𝓯𝓲𝓬𝓪𝓭𝓸, 𝓶𝓪𝓰𝓻𝓸, 𝓪𝓵𝓽𝓸, 𝓸𝓾 𝓭𝓾𝓻𝓸 𝓸𝓾 𝓸𝓾𝓽𝓻𝓪 𝓬𝓸𝓲𝓼𝓪 𝓺𝓾𝓪𝓵𝓺𝓾𝓮𝓻 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓪 𝓼𝓸𝓬𝓲𝓮𝓭𝓪𝓭𝓮 𝓭𝓲𝓽𝓪. 𝓔 𝓲𝓼𝓽𝓸 𝓷𝓪̃𝓸 𝓮́ 𝓻𝓪𝓻𝓪𝓼 𝓿𝓮𝔃𝓮𝓼. 𝓓𝓪𝓶𝓸-𝓷𝓸𝓼 𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓽𝓪 𝓭𝓸 𝓬𝓸𝓻𝓹𝓸 𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓪 𝓼𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓲𝓻 𝓹𝓻𝓪𝔃𝓮𝓻? 𝓔 𝓷𝓪̃𝓸 𝓼𝓸́ 𝓸 𝓹𝓻𝓪𝔃𝓮𝓻 𝓼𝓮𝔁𝓾𝓪𝓵 𝓶𝓪𝓼 𝓸𝓾𝓽𝓻𝓸𝓼 𝓹𝓻𝓪𝔃𝓮𝓻𝓮𝓼 𝓪𝓽𝓻𝓪𝓿𝓮́𝓼 𝓭𝓸 𝓬𝓸𝓻𝓹𝓸. 𝓜𝓾𝓲𝓽𝓪𝓼 𝓹𝓮𝓼𝓼𝓸𝓪𝓼 𝓽𝓮̂𝓶 𝓭𝓲𝓯𝓲𝓬𝓾𝓵𝓭𝓪𝓭𝓮 𝓮𝓶 𝓬𝓲𝓽𝓪𝓻 𝓮𝔁𝓮𝓶𝓹𝓵𝓸𝓼 𝓭𝓮 𝓮𝔁𝓹𝓮𝓻𝓲𝓮̂𝓷𝓬𝓲𝓪𝓼 𝓼𝓮𝓷𝓼𝓸𝓻𝓲𝓪𝓲𝓼/𝓯𝓲́𝓼𝓲𝓬𝓪𝓼 𝓹𝓻𝓪𝔃𝓮𝓻𝓸𝓼𝓪𝓼. 𝓛𝓪𝓻𝓰𝓪𝓻 𝓸𝓼 𝓹𝓻𝓸𝓬𝓮𝓼𝓼𝓸𝓼 𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓪𝓲𝓼 𝓮 𝓭𝓮𝓼𝓬𝓮𝓻 𝓪𝓸 𝓬𝓸𝓻𝓹𝓸, 𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓮𝓬𝓽𝓪𝓻 𝓬𝓸𝓶 𝓪𝓼 𝓼𝓮𝓷𝓼𝓪𝓬̧𝓸̃𝓮𝓼 𝓯𝓲́𝓼𝓲𝓬𝓪𝓼. 𝓝𝓪̃𝓸 𝓮́ 𝓭𝓲𝓼𝓼𝓸 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓼𝓮 𝓽𝓻𝓪𝓽𝓪 𝓷𝓾𝓶 𝓮𝓷𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓽𝓻𝓸 𝓮𝓻𝓸́𝓽𝓲𝓬𝓸? 𝓐𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓽𝓮𝓬𝓮 𝓽𝓾𝓭𝓸 𝓷𝓸 𝓬𝓸𝓻𝓹𝓸, 𝓶𝓪𝓼 𝓼𝓮 𝓽𝓲𝓿𝓮𝓻𝓶𝓸𝓼 𝓭𝓮𝓼𝓵𝓲𝓰𝓪𝓭𝓸𝓼 𝓭𝓮𝓵𝓮, 𝓲𝓶𝓮𝓻𝓼𝓸𝓼 𝓮𝓶 𝓹𝓻𝓸𝓬𝓮𝓼𝓼𝓸𝓼 𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓪𝓲𝓼, 𝓷𝓪̃𝓸 𝓼𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓲𝓶𝓸𝓼 𝓷𝓪𝓭𝓪, 𝓷𝓮𝓶 𝓷𝓸𝓼 𝓭𝓪𝓶𝓸𝓼 𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓽𝓪.

𝓔́ 𝓹𝓻𝓮𝓬𝓲𝓼𝓸 𝓪𝓫𝓻𝓪𝓷𝓭𝓪𝓻 𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓪 𝓼𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓲𝓻, 𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓪 𝓸𝓫𝓼𝓮𝓻𝓿𝓪𝓻 𝓪𝓼 𝓼𝓮𝓷𝓼𝓪𝓬̧𝓸̃𝓮𝓼. 𝓞 𝓪𝓽𝓸 𝓭𝓮 𝓪𝓫𝓻𝓪𝓷𝓭𝓪𝓻 𝓪𝓵𝓽𝓮𝓻𝓪 𝓪 𝓮𝔁𝓹𝓮𝓻𝓲𝓮̂𝓷𝓬𝓲𝓪. 𝓐 𝓬𝓪𝓻𝓰𝓪 𝓮𝓻𝓸́𝓽𝓲𝓬𝓪 𝓭𝓮 𝓾𝓶 𝓫𝓮𝓲𝓳𝓸 𝓲𝓶𝓹𝓻𝓸𝓿𝓪́𝓿𝓮𝓵, 𝓾𝓶 𝓫𝓮𝓲𝓳𝓸 𝓲𝓷𝓮𝓼𝓹𝓮𝓻𝓪𝓭𝓸. 𝓝𝓪̃𝓸 𝓯𝓪𝓵𝓸 𝓭𝓮 𝓾𝓶 𝓫𝓮𝓲𝓳𝓸 𝓮𝓶 𝓹𝓲𝓵𝓸𝓽𝓸 𝓪𝓾𝓽𝓸𝓶𝓪́𝓽𝓲𝓬𝓸. 𝓝𝓪̃𝓸 𝓯𝓪𝓵𝓸 𝓭𝓸𝓼 𝓫𝓮𝓲𝓳𝓸𝓼 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓯𝓪𝔃𝓮𝓶 𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓽𝓮 𝓭𝓸 𝓹𝓪𝓬𝓸𝓽𝓮 𝓭𝓸 𝓹𝓻𝓸𝓰𝓻𝓪𝓶𝓪 𝓭𝓪𝓺𝓾𝓮𝓵𝓮 𝓭𝓪𝓽𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓹𝓵𝓪𝓷𝓮𝓪𝓭𝓸 𝓾𝓶𝓪𝓼 𝓱𝓸𝓻𝓪𝓼 𝓪𝓷𝓽𝓮𝓼 𝓬𝓸𝓶 𝓾𝓶 𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓱𝓮𝓬𝓲𝓭𝓸 𝓪𝓬𝓪𝓫𝓪𝓭𝓸 𝓭𝓮 𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓱𝓮𝓬𝓮𝓻 𝓮𝓶 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓽𝓾𝓭𝓸 𝓲𝓼𝓼𝓸 𝓳𝓪́ 𝓮𝓻𝓪 𝓮𝓼𝓹𝓮𝓻𝓪𝓭𝓸 𝓮 𝓸𝓷𝓭𝓮 𝓫𝓮𝓲𝓳𝓪𝓻 𝓮́ 𝓸 𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓸𝓼. 𝓕𝓪𝓵𝓸 𝓭𝓮 𝓾𝓶 𝓶𝓸𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓸 𝓮𝓻𝓸́𝓽𝓲𝓬𝓸 𝓮𝓶 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓫𝓮𝓲𝓳𝓪𝓻 𝓮́ 𝓸 𝓶𝓪𝓲𝓼. 𝓑𝓮𝓲𝓳𝓪𝓻 𝓭𝓮𝓿𝓪𝓰𝓪𝓻. 𝓤𝓶 𝓫𝓮𝓲𝓳𝓸 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓼𝓮 𝓮𝔁𝓹𝓪𝓷𝓭𝓮 𝓷𝓸𝓼 𝓭𝓸𝓲𝓼 𝓶𝓮𝓽𝓻𝓸𝓼 𝓺𝓾𝓪𝓭𝓻𝓪𝓭𝓸𝓼 𝓭𝓮 𝓹𝓮𝓵𝓮. 𝓕𝓪𝓵𝓸 𝓭𝓮 𝓾𝓶 𝓫𝓮𝓲𝓳𝓸 𝓵𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓸, 𝓼𝓮𝓶 𝓹𝓻𝓮𝓼𝓼𝓪𝓼, 𝓾𝓶 𝓫𝓮𝓲𝓳𝓸 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓼𝓪𝓵𝓿𝓪 𝓸 𝓮𝓻𝓸𝓽𝓲𝓼𝓶𝓸.

𝓔𝓼𝓽𝓪 𝓬𝓸𝓶𝓹𝓸𝓷𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓮 𝓼𝓮𝓷𝓼𝓸𝓻𝓲𝓪𝓵 𝓮𝓻𝓸́𝓽𝓲𝓬𝓪 𝓵𝓮𝓿𝓪-𝓶𝓮 𝓭𝓮 𝓿𝓸𝓵𝓽𝓪 𝓪̀ 𝓶𝓾́𝓼𝓲𝓬𝓪 𝓭𝓸 𝓟𝓮𝓭𝓻𝓸, 𝓪 𝓺𝓾𝓮𝓶 𝓪𝓰𝓻𝓪𝓭𝓮𝓬̧𝓸 𝓪 𝓶𝓾́𝓼𝓲𝓬𝓪 𝓮 𝓪𝓼 𝓬𝓪𝓷𝓬̧𝓸̃𝓮𝓼, “𝓮𝓷𝓻𝓸𝓵𝓪𝓭𝓸𝓼 𝓹𝓮𝓵𝓸 𝓬𝓱𝓪̃𝓸 𝓷𝓸 𝓪𝓫𝓻𝓪𝓬̧𝓸 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓼𝓮 𝓿𝓲𝓾, 𝓮́ 𝓶𝓪𝓭𝓻𝓾𝓰𝓪𝓭𝓪 𝓸𝓾 𝓮́ 𝓪𝓵𝓾𝓬𝓲𝓷𝓪𝓬̧𝓪̃𝓸, 𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓻𝓮𝓵𝓪𝓼 𝓭𝓮 𝓶𝓲𝓵 𝓬𝓸𝓻𝓮𝓼, 𝓮𝓬𝓼𝓽𝓪𝓼𝔂 𝓸𝓾 𝓹𝓪𝓲𝔁𝓪̃𝓸, 𝓱𝓾𝓶𝓶𝓶, 𝓮𝓼𝓼𝓮 𝓸𝓭𝓸𝓻 … 𝓽𝓻𝓪𝔃 𝓽𝓪𝓷𝓽𝓪 𝓼𝓪𝓾𝓭𝓪𝓭𝓮, 𝓶𝓪𝓽𝓪-𝓶𝓮 𝓭𝓮 𝓪𝓶𝓸𝓻 𝓸𝓾 𝓭𝓪́-𝓶𝓮 𝓵𝓲𝓫𝓮𝓻𝓭𝓪𝓭𝓮, 𝓭𝓮𝓲𝔁𝓪-𝓶𝓮 𝓿𝓸𝓪𝓻, 𝓬𝓪𝓷𝓽𝓪𝓻 𝓮 𝓪𝓭𝓸𝓻𝓶𝓮𝓬𝓮𝓻….”

𝓥𝓮𝓷𝓱𝓸 𝓮𝓶 𝓭𝓮𝓯𝓮𝓼𝓪 𝓭𝓸 𝓮𝓻𝓸𝓽𝓲𝓼𝓶𝓸 𝓮 𝓭𝓸 𝓬𝓸𝓻𝓹𝓸, 𝓾𝓶 𝓬𝓸𝓻𝓹𝓸 𝓭𝓮𝓼𝓹𝓮𝓻𝓽𝓸, 𝓾𝓶 𝓬𝓸𝓻𝓹𝓸 𝓪𝓽𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓸, 𝓾𝓶 𝓬𝓸𝓻𝓹𝓸 𝓮𝓻𝓸́𝓽𝓲𝓬𝓸. 𝓝𝓪̃𝓸 𝓼𝓮𝓲 𝓬𝓸𝓶𝓸 𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓬𝓲𝓵𝓲𝓪𝓻 𝓲𝓼𝓽𝓸 𝓬𝓸𝓶 𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓪 𝓶𝓸𝓭𝓮𝓻𝓷𝓲𝓭𝓪𝓭𝓮 𝓪𝓬𝓮𝓵𝓮𝓻𝓪𝓭𝓪, 𝓹𝓻𝓸𝓭𝓾𝓽𝓲𝓿𝓪 𝓮 𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓼𝓾𝓶𝓲𝓼𝓽𝓪. 𝓣𝓪𝓵𝓿𝓮𝔃 𝓸 𝓮𝓻𝓸𝓽𝓲𝓼𝓶𝓸 𝓽𝓮𝓷𝓱𝓪 𝓺𝓾𝓮 𝓼𝓮 𝓻𝓮𝓲𝓷𝓿𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓪𝓻.

* Psicóloga clínica, licenciada pela Universidade de Coimbra e doutorada pela Universidade de Salamanca. É professora e investigadora no William James Center for Research, ISPA – Instituto Universitário. Realiza investigação na área da sexualidade, aliada à prática clínica que mantém desde 1997. É Terapeuta Sexual formada pela Sociedade Portuguesa de Sexologia Clínica em 1997, da qual foi presidente em 2013/14.

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